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If you have dream control, deliberately choosing to banish all dream scenery – and succeeding of course! – will end the dream and leave you conscious inside your sleeping body, vibrating and exhibiting sleep paralysis. From there just attempt to be elsewhere, for me it just works.

About the solar plexus vs throat thing: the exit chakra corresponds to the astral plane you'll tend to end up on. If you make a point of exiting through the crown or forehead chakra, you'll go to correspondingly elevated planes that will a) not have monsters in b) be far more spiritually enlightening.

To have more control in your dreams, Lucid dreaming, being present and more aware are whats key. Practice this in daily life. After all, your dreams are a reflection of inner thoughts and feelings. Throughout the day, try to pickup on things that are going on, and remember your mind has a lot of thoughts swirling around, sometimes best to quiet them up and try and "feel"…., and use your senses instead of just your mind, (remember, the mind can help, as well as feel the grass, things in your dream you can feel. Also Vivid dreams are really important, i believe they represent a lot more than people realize, of the inner connection beteween body, mind and soul. The most vivid things you remember in the dream are the good things to look up, In all my experience its always had deep symbology to feelings, and events that have happened, are happening and will happen. But its almost like a vivid movie playing in your head of a secret your spirits trying to lat your mind in on, ya know… Hope this helps a little,
Sincerely, Beni

Controlling your dreams is actually pretty easy. You start by thinking of what it is you want to dream about when you lay down and close your eyes. If you are like most people you will lay there a little while and make up your dream before you fall asleep. The first few times you will fall asleep and your dream will drift off elsewhere. This is normal. After a while when you fall asleep you will have a state of semi-consciousness where you kind of know that you are
dreaming. This is where you begin to shape your dreams. Please note that not every dream is capable of being shaped by you. Most are but to a certain extent.

I started controlling my dreams when I was about 12 and didn't even know it was something that other people didn't know about or didn't know how to do. It wasn't until about 4 years ago that I realized the majority of people can't or don't know how to control their dreams.

Have you ever woken up from a really good dream and attempted to go back to sleep and finish the dream off? If you have and acheived the result you were looking for then you did infact control your own dream.

lucid dreaming is the first step, so good for you so far! meditating is the key, it all comes down to the control you have over your own consciousness (or ability to control your lack of control, if you will). i've been trying (still trying) to astral project for about three years now, and while i'm the master lucid dreamer, i've only been moderately successful with the latter. i suggest you read the book "Mastering Astral Projection: a 90-day Guide to Out-of-Body Experience", its the most accessable on the subject i've found.